Etiquette

My Commitment: Guidelines for a Blissful Session

I’ve been crafting a deeply relaxing and unique massage experience for my clients for over fourteen years. To make sure every session is professional, comfortable and therapeutic—for both of us—I’ve put together a few simple guidelines. Think of these not as strict ‘rules’, but as tips to help you get the absolute best out of your time on my table and to steer clear of some previous client experiences where things have gotten a bit out of hand. So, please don’t think I have all the personality of a drill sergeant, however these guidelines are for clarity about what is permitted and what should be avoided to give you the best and most relaxing experience. 

1. Focus on Your Relaxation

The goal of your session is to release tension and reconnect with your body. Any behaviour that works against this goal will disrupt your experience and mine.

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• Relax Your Body: The massage is designed to help your muscles soften. If you feel compelled to lift your hips, "present," or gyrate on the table, you're tensing up the very muscles I'm trying to relax. Please lie back, stay still, and let me do the work.

• Touch Should Be Gentle: Mutual touch is an option to deepen the healing connection, but always remember, I am working. Pulling, grabbing, or any aggressive touch disrupts the flow and concentration required for a quality massage. Keep the touch light and relaxing.

• This is not a Peep Show: I like to use a small towel over my eyes to help manage any extra light when I turn over, but it’s there so you can completely switch off. Trying to look around or sit up to watch can be distracting and break the relaxing vibe. The best experience comes from closing your eyes, lying back and letting go. I understand if you’ve never been in close proximity to a naked man, and that’s perfectly okay, but when it starts to disrupt the massage, that’s when it becomes a challenge for you to relax.

2. Clarity on the Sensual Ending

Yes, the session includes a sensual ending, timed beautifully for profound release. However, this is always at my professional discretion to ensure a positive experience for both of us.

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• It Must Unfold Naturally: My professional judgment is based on your state of relaxation and natural response. If you are not appearing aroused, I will not proceed. This is to prevent embarrassment and ensure the boundary is respected.

• Trust the Timing: Plenty of time is allocated for this natural release. Trying to force, delay, or "make it last longer" inevitably causes us to run out of time and leaves you feeling rushed and frustrated. Please trust the process—the timing is a fine art.

3. Professional Boundaries Are Absolute

I value mutual respect above everything else. These guidelines ensure our dynamic remains professional, safe, and focused on the service you paid for.

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• I Am Not a Sexual Partner or Counsellor: You are paying for a professional massage, not sexual therapy, assistance with physical issues like achieving erections, or a counselling session. My expertise is in bodywork. Questions or expectations that fall outside of my scope will be politely shut down.

• Respect My Personal Space: I am not an escort and will not be treated like one—in person, via email, or text. Sexual comments, treating me like "a piece of meat," or asking me about my personal life or sexual preferences are not acceptable. This is a commercial transaction for a therapeutic service.

• Communication Ends with the Session: I do not engage in continued conversation or service (sexual or otherwise) outside of the time you have booked and paid for. Do not send inappropriate communications via text or email. Additionally, it is a given that any communication, such as text/WhatsApp messages and also phone calls, is kept within business hours (Mon-Fri 0900-1700) only.

I am always happy to welcome new clients and guide those who are new to this style of bodywork. However, I maintain the right to deny or terminate a session without refund if these basic guidelines of professional respect and human decency cannot be upheld.

My goal is always for you to leave feeling incredibly relaxed and re-centred. When we both respect these guidelines, that outcome is guaranteed.